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Parenting and Music: The Crucial Dos and Don'ts

Music is more than a rhythmic beat we can sing or hum to. Music is considered all-encompassing, able to release and evoke emotions from the most wicked of thoughts to complete ecstasy and bliss with peace of mind. That said, should you control the listening to music and the types of music your child listens to? I will explain why it is NEVER a good idea to do this in this post, Parenting and Music: Dos and Don'ts. blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | 5 band members sitting against the wall looking upwards

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> Intro (top of page) > Scientifically Proven > Release Agent > Young Children and Toddlers > Communicate > Berkley's Interactive Music Map! > Parenting and Music: DO! > Creation and Self-Expression > What If I Disapprove of the Music? > Parenting and Music: DON'T! > Conclusion

Scientifically Proven blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | Teenage girl laying down, head on a skateboard, listening to music in the park

The first reason we should not control the music our children listen to is that studies have proven music can affect your mind, mood, and body. This phenomenon revealed that music can improve mood and reduce stress and anxiety. Specifically, listening to music has been found to reduce cortisol, the hormone released in response to stress. It can also reduce heart rate and blood pressure. In addition, music can also stimulate the production of endorphins, which boosts mood and reduces pain.

"Music has also been found to reduce cortisol levels, help with sleep, reduce depression, and even reduce burnout." - Penn Medicine

Release Agent blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | 3 young girls in a band singing, playing guitar, and drums.

Another vital benefit is that music can help validate your child's current emotional state and provide a healthy outlet for expression. As a result, it becomes an excellent tool for parents to help their children understand how to regulate their emotions in a healthy, proper way.

In addition, this can create a safe space where children and teens can explore and express their feelings without judgment or fear. Finally, even when all else fails, a good tune can be used as a tool or outlet to distract, calm down, and relax.

Young Children and Toddlers blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | Toddler girl with oversized headphones amazed at what she is hearing

Music is a superb tool that can be utilized to calm babies and toddlers- and relaxing music can also bring peace and tranquility to busy and stressed parents. On the flip side, music can also create a stimulating environment to nurture the growth and development of a child. Additionally, parents may use music to bring joy to the family and create an atmosphere of celebration.


In addition to the soothing power and tranquil environment music can provide, it is an excellent method for young children to help experience and understand various emotions and feelings. Many people will go as far as stating that music is a type of sub-language to communicate with. Rhythms and tunes allow for emotional communication that you can share with another. blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | Young girl concentrating on the music she is listening to on her headphones

However, it is essential to note that no two individuals are alike. What someone might find soothing and nostalgic, another may find sad and fearful. Music can be a great way to express these feelings and connect with our children and others, as long as we remember that each person will experience the same song differently.

Curious how certain musical sounds make you feel? Check out Berkeley's Interactive Music Map!

Parenting and Music: DO! blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | Teenage boy playing an imaginary air guitar

If your child wants to begin playing an instrument, singing, or joining school activities for this, we should always encourage it! Remember, music takes many forms: where it can be done alone or in a group, with instruments or without- and it can even include listening to music, moving to the music, and doing a little improv to whatever is on.

Creation and Self-Expression blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | Band of 3 playing, 2 on guitar, one on drums

Creating music is essential to self-expression and fosters creative thinking. Exploring and creating music builds self-esteem, problem-solving, and motivation, leading to character and individualism. Inspiring your children to explore their creative side and discover different music-making methods is a fantastic idea. Studies show that active music-making positively affects mental and emotional well-being, which helps our children overall.

"Active music-making positively affects neurotransmitters, such as dopamine and serotonin, that influence mood." - Tallahassee Memorial Healthcare

What If I Disapprove of the Music?

Countless parents disapprove of the music their child or teen enjoys and listens to for various reasons. For example, some disagree with the artists' songs' profanity or wording/statements. Others disapprove of the sound of the music or the reputation of the genre of music or the artist. Whatever reason you may have concerning why your child should not listen to certain (or all) music, please strongly think about it and reconsider your standpoint. blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | Annoyed adult plugging his hears at the sound music is making

Parenting and Music: DON'T! blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | Neon sign of notes of music on a blue brick background

Whatever the reasons are, they are genuinely justified and well-founded; some types of music out there are hard to swallow, whether morally, socially, or ethically. Understand, though, that the feelings that music evokes and makes a person feel are your child's feelings, not yours. Yes, a message or language may be questionable (or flat-out ethically wrong!); however, a person's mind, mood, and body do not decipher the meanings of words in the same way that the body feels rhythm and beat- which can include somebody's voice. When the "message" is offensive, that is when good, solid parenting comes into play. If you have raised your child with a robust set of morals and beliefs, especially when it comes to knowing right from wrong, they will be just fine, and the concerning "message" in the song will fall by the wayside.

"A person's mind, mood, and body do not decipher the meanings of words in the same way that the body feels rhythm and beat."

Conclusion blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | Teenage girl enjoying music with headphones on and phone in hand

If you and your children enjoy music- whether elevator music, birds chirping, or death metal, lean into it and do not try to shun it away. Remember, if it feels good, regardless of the message it may be delivering, listen on and allow your family belief system and morals to guide you past any sinister messages (then start exploring the genre for other artists that provide a positive message you can get behind!) Either way, music is a gateway to your deepest emotions and gives you a control dial to manage your stress and anxiety. blogs | Parenting and Music: The Dos and Don’ts | Young girl sitting on a couch with headphones on listening to music

I genuinely hope Parenting and Music: Dos and Don'ts gives some insight into the power of music and how it can affect the mind, body, and soul. Remember, music can enhance parenting, but its impact will vary from person to person. For example, suppose certain sounds and rhythms make you feel differently than before hearing them. In that case, it has become critical for your ever-evolving and developing mental health and well-being. This is because your mind has discovered another avenue to explore or enhance a feeling. Whether you are a child or an adult, it is essential for all humans, including yours.


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